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Do we need experience?

Some things are not understood until they are met. This is not a new phenomenon in life, to get the gist of something, sometimes you just have to experience the thing yeah. That’s just practically true and not.

One time in September 2021, I was with a friend and yeah we happened to talk relational issues. She was like, “Vi, you know what, right now I do what I do because I have experienced the issue. Somebody used to tell me that don’t do this and this when you go to college. But I chose to live my own way, I got into a relationship, I tasted it and now I agree with the advices the person gave me some time back.” I continued to listen to her and she said “Sometimes you just have to mess up a bit to get the gist of something, I wouldn’t know what I know right now if I hadn’t experienced the relationship” I giggled when she finished, I took a deep sigh as I processed and connected what she just said with what is really being said out there. Come on, you have never dated before, how would you know how to go about it when you finally get to date? That’s one of the statements so many ears hear over and over again, in the process being enticed to at least experience it. So, it’s either we experience it ourselves or we gain the experience by asking those who have experienced it before yeah, all good. Experience is good, but can we talk a bit about this.

Not every experience experienced is an experience, let’s understand that. Not every encounter you find yourself in results in an experience. You might have experienced 4 relationships already, but let me ask you, have you been awarded a Bachelor’s Degree in relationships? We see people moving from one failed relationship to another prospective failure. There is an experience gained, right, but what’s so surprising is that we keep failing despite having that experience. Perhaps yes you are experienced but not experienced enough to deserve an experience award yet. If it was at school, you would have been recommended to repeat, pass and then be qualified of experience. So, I repeat that not every experience you experience is an experience. In the same way I would say, not every relationship experienced is a relationship. Some of these relationships are just a simulation of what a relationship look like. Yes, am trying to tell you that that relationship you got into might not be the real picture, it just imitated to paint the real picture.

Another principle: The rightly experienced experience results in an experience. Experience is important yeah, it does to some extent unveil the gist of a particular thing. But it matters how you experience the experience at hand because that determines whether that experience is it or not.

Sometimes you just have to mess up a bit to learn. Don’t be afraid to make mistakes, we learn through mistakes. Nobody is perfect, we all make mistakes and learn. Right, can I be a bit different on this one. I repeat: experience is good. But gaining experience through a bit of a mess or a mistake through the urge that nobody is perfect, that one is what I don’t agree with. It’s okay to make mistakes, Nooo, I choose a different view on that: it’s not okay to make mistakes, it’s not okay to mess up. No_body, yes, No_flesh is perfect...I get it and I really wish to believe that but I don’t. I know of one man who didn’t mess up or make mistakes his whole life whilst everybody said nobody is perfect. The story goes like: For we do not have a High Priest who is unable to sympathize and understand our weaknesses and temptations, but One who has been tempted [knowing exactly how it feels to be human] in every respect as we are, yet without [committing any] sin. Yep, his name is Jesus. Oh you talking about the Son of God, and whose sons are you?

What am saying is, it’s not on to make mistakes because nobody is perfect. You being flesh like everybody else is not enough to justify that you should fail and then learn. We’ll have a day to talk about this, remind me if I happen to forget. But the thing is, if it has to be through a mess that you gain experience, there’s a high likelihood of you missing the experience itself. Thank God, he’s gracious he makes our mess work for our good. But that’s being immature to expect God to be doing that over and over again, we need to grow up.

 

Lastly let me say: It’s not every experience you need to experience to gain experience. There’s a better way to gain experience other than experiencing the thing itself. Sometimes you will just have to sit where you are, see, observe, hear and learn. There are these sayings fused together: A wise man will hear (Hear instruction, and be wise, and refuse it not.), and will increase learning; and a man of understanding shall attain unto wise counsels. Learn to listen to instruction in order to increase your strategies of leadership over matters of life. Do you listen? Who do you listen to? God is a full packaged God, He’s more experienced than any person I have ever met. When He sits down with you and says go, stop, wait, not this but this, let’s learn to obey and mistakes won’t be our portion. When God calls you to listen to His instructions, all he does is give you skill, qualify you, award you of experience and then sends you to apply the skill He has taught you. He doesn’t send you to experience a thing you got no qualifications on. Maybe we don’t give Him time enough to qualify us. God never fails relationships, it should be a burden when we fail and we should seek to understand if we listened when God was trying to fuse experience in us. If you have never dated, cool, don’t be fooled that you need experience from it first, no, you need experience from God first and you will be good. And so, it matters what experience you are getting yourself involved with.